Friday, May 27, 2016

5 Memorial Wedding Ideas (to honor your loved ones)

Memorial Day Weekend always makes me think of my grandpa. He was stationed in Japan during the Korean War and that's where he met my grandma. If not for his service, I wouldn't be here.

I know, Memorial Day is for those who died while serving and Veteran's Day is for men and women like my grandpa who served and came home. But still, for both holidays, I think of him.

He passed years before my wedding, before ever getting the chance to know Pete. And, unfortunately, that is how life goes sometimes. People who we want to be at our wedding are sometimes watching from Heaven.

At weddings, you can honor these people. We put together a list of five ways that you can do so.

How are you honoring your loved ones at your wedding? This post from www.abrideonabudget.com has five great ideas.

5 Memorial Wedding Ideas (to honor your loved ones)


1. Memorial Table
If you have photos of your loved ones, frame them and put them on a table with a bouquet of flowers. You can make a sign that says something like, "We know you would be here today if Heaven wasn't so far away" and set that in a frame along with the photos. Put the table in a well trafficked area so your guests can visit with those guests.

The table in the photo above was at our friends' Shawna and Frank's wedding in March. It was so classy and tastefully done. Plus, after the wedding, they could put those framed photos in their home to display them.

2. Flowers To Mary
If you're having a church ceremony, you can do flowers to Mary. Basically, you and your fiance (or husband, depending on what time in the ceremony your presentation is done) walk flowers to a statue of Mary and say a Hail Mary silently as a devotion. This is often done in memory of a loved one, although you don't ever have to say who specifically. That's between you and Mary.

In the same vein, you could light a memorial candle at the church in memory of your loved one.

3. Donation
If you have a  loved one who recently passed, in lieu of favors, you can do a donation in their memory. It can be to a charity that your loved one supported, an organization that is searching for a cause if your loved one had an illness, etc. Whatever you think is best. Just create small cards to go on each table to let your guests know that instead of favors, this is what you're doing.

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4. Accessories
Pete wore pink ribbon cufflinks in memory of his mom. In a way, she was with him all day long. We also had calla lilies in my bouquet and as Pete's boutineer since that was his mom's favorite flower. You could also purchase a bouquet memory charm and add your loved one's photo to it. Little things like this, that no one really knows but you, are really special.

5. Reserved chairs
What you can do at the ceremony is put a reserved sign on seats, meaning those are reserved for your loved ones who couldn't make it. I thought about doing this at ours, but looking out into the church and seeing a big gap would have been too hard for us. I have seen it done with photos of your loved ones too, but for me, it would be too hard.

BRIDAL BABBLE: Which of these memorial wedding ideas is your favorite?

Thursday, May 26, 2016

Top 10 Ring Bearer Gift Ideas

Thank you gifts don't stop with the grown ups. You should also pick up gifts for your ring bearer and flower girl. We're forgetting about the little girls right now, though, because this post is focusing on ring bearers.

If you're looking for a gift for the little man in your wedding party, we're here to help. Our top ten ring bearer gifts are below.

Need to get a gift for a ring bearer? Check out this top 10 ring bearer gift ides post from www.abrideonabudget.com.


Top 10 Ring Bearer Gift Ideas

  1. All Star Ring Bearer Plush Football
  2. Personalized Ring Bearer Baseball
  3. The Best Ever Ring Bearer Book
  4. Ring Bearer Stretch Limo
  5. Ring Bearer Sock Monkey
  6. I Am The Ring Bearer T-Shirt
  7. Ring Bearer Picture Frame
  8. LEGO Table Decoration Set
  9. Ring Bearer Thermos Bottle
  10. Ring Pops
Need to get a gift for a ring bearer? Check out this top 10 ring bearer gift ides post from www.abrideonabudget.com.
All Star Ring Bearer Plush Football
I am a big fan of getting kids toys that don't light or beep. Anything that's not electronic is a big yes in my book. Especially if it encourages play. Because really, weddings can be boring for kids, so you want to give them something to play with to stay entertained. This All Star Ring Bearer Plush Football is perfect for that.

Purchase here.

Need to get a gift for a ring bearer? Check out this top 10 ring bearer gift ides post from www.abrideonabudget.com.
Personalized Ring Bearer Baseball
Is your ring bearer more into baseball than football? No worries. We still got you. Pick up this Personalized Ring Bearer Baseball instead. Yes, it's personalized, but yes, it also should be played with. Toys for kids shouldn't need to be kept perfect. This baseball, covered in dirt and memories from your reception, will be worth more than if it was kept perfectly white for years.

Purchase here.

Need to get a gift for a ring bearer? Check out this top 10 ring bearer gift ides post from www.abrideonabudget.com.
The Best Ever Ring Bearer Book
How much does your ring bearer know about being a ring bearer? If you pick him up The Best Ever Ring Bearer Book, it will tell him everything he needs to know about being a ring bearer. And that'll be fun for him to learn (and a little easier on his parents who will have to explain his duties).

Purchase here.

Need to get a gift for a ring bearer? Check out this top 10 ring bearer gift ides post from www.abrideonabudget.com.
Ring Bearer Stretch Limo
Boys like cars. It seems to be a big hit with every young boy. But you can always give Hot Wheels. You can't always give a Ring Bearer Stretch Limo, now can you? This has pull back action too, which is super fun (and can be good if there's a pretend runaway bride inside!).

Purchase here.

Need to get a gift for a ring bearer? Check out this top 10 ring bearer gift ides post from www.abrideonabudget.com.
Ring Bearer Sock Monkey
Sock monkeys are so cute. And this Ring Bearer Sock Monkey, it's from when this sock monkey was actually in a wedding. Apparently. I mean, that's what the description told me. It's so cute and I can imagine your little ring bearer snuggling with it after the reception ... and for many nights after.

Purchase here.

Need to get a gift for a ring bearer? Check out this top 10 ring bearer gift ides post from www.abrideonabudget.com.
I Am The Ring Bearer T-Shirt
I like wedding clothing. It's fun to wear during wedding week, and then you can use it as (to use Pete's term) knock around clothes after. I've seen a lot of plain items, but this I Am The Ring Bearer T-Shirt is so awesome because it's a play on Batman. And, I'm not saying your ring bearer is Batman, but I've never seen him and Batman in the same room.

Purchase here.
Need to get a gift for a ring bearer? Check out this top 10 ring bearer gift ides post from www.abrideonabudget.com.
Ring Bearer Picture Frame
This gift is a little more for the parents than the ring bearer himself, but you can pick up a Ring Bearer Picture Frame. I actually made one at CafePress for our ring bearer so I could add his name to it. I really loved it ... and I think our ring bearer loved that we also gave him a present with it.

Purchase here.

Need to get a gift for a ring bearer? Check out this top 10 ring bearer gift ides post from www.abrideonabudget.com.
LEGO Wedding Table Decoration Set
If your ring bearer loves LEGO, this LEGO Wedding Table Decoration Set is the way to go. It comes with a bride and groom too, which is fun. You can set up a kids table at your wedding, use this to mark it, and let the ring bearer take it home at the end of the night.

Purchase here.

Need to get a gift for a ring bearer? Check out this top 10 ring bearer gift ides post from www.abrideonabudget.com.
Ring Bearer Thermos Bottle
Weddings can be long for kids, especially the ceremony. They might get antsy, especially if you have a summer wedding and they get hot and thirsty. My friend Michelle -- whose son was a ring bearer recently (and you can see him later on today on our Instagram page) -- said a cup with a straw is a great way to go. The straw is important so they don't spill and get messy before the reception, so this Ring Bearer Thermos Bottle is perfect.

Purchase here.

Need to get a gift for a ring bearer? Check out this top 10 ring bearer gift ides post from www.abrideonabudget.com.
Ring Pops
Kids love candy. That's the truth. So you should put together snack packs for the ring bearer (and any other kids) for the ceremony and reception. Go with Ring Pops, fruit snacks, Goldfish, animal crackers, etc. Kids with full bellies won't be hangry during the long day.

Purchase here.

BRIDAL BABBLE: Which of these ring bearer gift ideas is your favorite?


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Check out our Everything You Need To Know About Ring Bearers post.


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Wednesday, May 25, 2016

Wedding Invitation Suites (and what needs to be included in your wedding invitation)

A Bride On A Budget received these items for review. All thoughts and opinions belong to ABOAB.

Wedding invitations are not like other invitations. If you have another party, you just hand write an invitation, leave your phone number as the RSVP, and wait for the calls to come in (or not, if you wrote "regrets only"). As long as you have the date, time, and include the "why" part of the invitation, you're good.

But with wedding invitations, the actual invitation is just one component.

Your wedding invitation isn't the only component of your wedding invitation suites. This post from www.abrideonabudget.com tells you all about your wedding invitation suites and what needs to be included in your wedding invitation.

I got a chance to check out a few pre-printed invitation suites from Paper Source. These are not actual weddings that are happening, so don't pack your bags and try to crash the wedding of Deborah and Brandon because, well, you won't get there (partially because these are probably fictitious people but mostly because the Riviera Palm Springs isn't even at the location on the invitation -- thank you Google).

Your wedding invitation isn't the only component of your wedding invitation suites. This post from www.abrideonabudget.com tells you all about your wedding invitation suites and what needs to be included in your wedding invitation.

When looking at invitations, guests aren't just looking at the main piece of paper. They also have to look at all the "accessories" (like the RSVP cards and envelopes). Together, the full line is called a "suite" not a "set" (you can throw that around in your circle to feel special).

Wedding Invitation Suites (and what needs to be included in your wedding invitation)


Let's start with the actual invitation. What do you need to say on it?

Wedding invitation text checklist:

  • Bride's and groom's name
  • Wedding date
  • Location of ceremony and/or reception (name and address)
  • Time (of ceremony and/or reception)
  • Parents names (if they are helping to pay for/host the wedding)

Wedding RSVP text checklist:

  • Literally, the letters RSVP
  • The RSVP date (traditionally one month before your wedding)
  • A line for guests to write their names (it often begins with M)
  • A place to circle/check yes or no
  • A place to write number attending
It is proper etiquette to address the RSVP envelope to yourself and add proper postage (most RSVP cards will require one standard stamp, but if you have a very small RSVP card, it will need to be hand sorted and will require extra postage).

I had no desire to hand write our return address on the RSVP cards, so I ordered return address labels with our names and address to just stick on the front of RSVP envelope. If you search a bit, you can find return address labels that look more like stickers. Get those because they're bigger and will take up more real estate on the envelopes. Regular address labels are a bit too small to fit in the middle of the card.

Your wedding invitation isn't the only component of your wedding invitation suites. This post from www.abrideonabudget.com tells you all about your wedding invitation suites and what needs to be included in your wedding invitation.

If you are inviting out of town guests, you want to set aside a block of rooms at a local hotel (most hotels will give you a discounted room rate and will not hold you responsible for unblocked rooms, especially since a month or so prior to the wedding, they will release any unblocked rooms to the public). If you have rooms blocked, include the hotel information (name, address, contact info, any group codes) in the invitation.

If you are only blocking rooms at one hotel, you could also include directions from the hotel to the venue. Remember, though, the more papers you add into your invitation, the heavier it will be. Save yourself a little postage and stick the directions in the wedding welcome bags.

Wedding invitation component checklist:

  • Wedding invitation
  • RSVP card
  • Self-addressed stamped envelope (to fit RSVP card)
  • Directions or map (optional)
  • Hotel information sheet from the hotel (optional)
  • Rehearsal dinner invitation (optional and only if you are inviting the entire guest list to the rehearsal dinner)

What not to include:

  • Registry information

Your wedding invitation isn't the only component of your wedding invitation suites. This post from www.abrideonabudget.com tells you all about your wedding invitation suites and what needs to be included in your wedding invitation.

Be aware of how much your postage will be. We've addressed this previously, but in case you missed that post, envelopes that are either oversized, undersized, or heavy will change your postage price. Plus, keep in mind that traditional-size envelopes will be sent through a sorter. And that sorter doesn't care if you have a very pretty bow on the front of the invitation that might rip through the envelope. Nope. It will just sort the mail and your guests may receive something that looks like it was used as a bullet proof vest.

Personally, I've received way too many invitations where the bow/jewel/bead, etc. punctured the envelope. This is (generally) the first indication I'm getting of how your wedding will be ... and unless it's in some rough neighborhood, a bullet hole isn't the introduction I want. My suggestion? Keep the BeDazzler back in the early 90's and go with a flat invitation.

Your wedding invitation isn't the only component of your wedding invitation suites. This post from www.abrideonabudget.com tells you all about your wedding invitation suites and what needs to be included in your wedding invitation.

My other suggestion is don't hand write your return address on your actual invitations. One of the best things we did was invest in an address stamp. You can get them in ink or as an embosser. The embosser is more expensive, but you don't need to purchase ink. Depending on how often you plan on using this, you might want to pay more now and save later.

We used our address stamp for our save the dates, our bridal shower thank you cards, our invitations. our wedding thank you cards, and two sets of Christmas cards (then we moved). When I created ours, I made sure to only use our first names so that we would be able to keep and use it for as long as we lived in the apartment.

We've gotten so much use out of ours that I've decided from now on, an address stamp will be my gift at engagement parties. Best. Investment. Ever. If you don't believe me, you can check out my post: 5 Times You'll Wish You Had A Stamp During Wedding Planning.

BRIDAL BABBLE: Did you include everything in your wedding invitation suite?