Tuesday, March 12, 2013
My Logistical Nightmare
Pete and I are both from New York. Our parents are from New York (and, as far as I know, none of them ever lived outside of New York). We were both born, raised, and went to high school and college in New York. We both spent a couple years outside of New York, but we met when we were both living in New York.
Our friends, family, everyone's in New York.
With the exception of one, all my bridesmaids live in New York. With the exception of one, all Pete's groomsmen live in New York.
Pete and I met in New York. Until last winter, we were living in New York.
But now, we live in North Carolina. We work in North Carolina. We're planning our wedding in North Carolina.
And it wasn't until I was talking to my friend that I realized with the exception of us, this is a destination wedding.
When I've gone to bridal expos, I'll tell vendors that all our guests will be traveling but it never occurred to me how much I would have to incorporate that into our planning. Yes, I considered that people would be flying here so we need to put together travel bags for our guests, we will have to coordinate hotel discounts, we will have to give our guests maps of the area and restaurant recommendations.
What I didn't think of was how people are going to get around. How will our guests get from the airport to the hotel? How will they get from the hotel to the rehearsal dinner? The reception? The restaurants we recommend?
I have a car; Pete has a car. They can hold five people each, so that means we can transport ten people between destinations ... although I'm pretty sure we will be occupied and we won't be playing chauffeur to anyone. Are we supposed to rent a party bus? Coordinate with the hotel? Give my maid of honor the keys to my car and my GPS and say, "Good luck"?
When I traveled to a wedding in Washington last summer, I coordinated my flight as best I could with the bride's sister so I could take the two hour ride from the airport to the bride's house with my friend and her husband. After that, I bummed rides with the bride's sister, with the bride's dad, with the bride's aunt and uncle, anyone who had an empty seat fit me in it. I didn't rent a car and it worked out for me.
I was just talking to this friend, and she said they didn't rent a bus. They knew people would be renting cars and left it at that.
Can I rely on people to rent cars? Can I rely on people who do rent cars to fill their extra seats with the people who don't rent cars?
This is the type of stuff that keeps popping up when I try to plan the wedding, the small simple things that are so easily overlooked until someone brings it up. Then, the questions spiral out of control, I have a mini panic attack, and I remind myself: This is how brides become bridezilla.
BRIDAL BABBLE: What would you do? I seriously need suggestions.