Monday, April 10, 2017

Why Pre-Cana Is Beneficial (even if you're not religious)

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Pre-Cana. What? Yea, exactly. I had no idea what (or who?) "Cana" was, so my confusion only increased when I heard there was something that should be done before (pre) cana, whatever it was.

Basically, it's an event that takes place in a church and is something many couples partake in before they tie the knot. To be honest, I was glad Lisa and I did it for one important reason: It gives you and your partner the opportunity to discuss some big issues you may not have discussed on your own. So here we go. Today's topic is: Why Pre-Cana Is Beneficial (even if you're not religious).

 Why Pre-Cana Is Beneficial (even if you're not religious)

Let me start by saying that I couldn't be any less religious, so when Lisa told me there was some religious-based thing called pre-cana that we have to do before we got married, I was less than thrilled, even before I knew what it was. The fact that it was at a church, or was even tangentially connected to a church, was enough to dissuade me.

Don't jump ship yet fellas. It's not really a course, at least it wasn't for us. We went once, and I actually wound up seeing a friend there, so that was cool. We went to a bar after, which made the trip worth it. Basically, at some point in the past, a bunch of Catholic Bishops decided that the following topics are "must have conversations" couples should have before they marry:
  • Spirituality/Faith
  • Conflict Resolution Skills
  • Careers
  • Finances
  • Intimacy/Cohabitation
  • Children
  • Commitment

Honestly, much of the fundamental subject matter wasn't even of a religious nature. The people who conduct the course are religious people, and in the end they managed to put a religious spin on all of the topics covered, but the concept itself is a good idea. For example, how many couples actually sit down and discuss finances in detail, or how they plan to resolve disagreements when they come up? In the end, the term "pre-cana" could have just been swapped with "pre-counseling" once you filter out the religious spin. That's kind of what it was.

Basically, whether you're religious or not, having a conversation with you future partner-to-be about these important topics is just a common sense good idea. Period. Well, that's my opinion anyways.

BRIDAL BABBLE: Did you attend a pre-cana class?

Having a church wedding?

Check out these posts:
What Exactly Is Pre-Cana?
(And answers to all your other marriage prep questions) post

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